QUOTE (Kiasmama @ May 23, 2008 - 08:55 AM)

You'll have to refresh my memory...I really dont' remember responding to you personally and taking anything you said out of context. If I did...please point it out and we can discuss it. I simply don't remember.
My comment on gay bars was from my experience in gay bars. That summer we went to around 30+, in addition we went to two or three gay campgrounds. Don't even ask me about those. They were an anti gays dream. Was what I said insulting? I dont' really care if it was.
I was under the impression that the gay community actually gave a crap about AIDS. But when I see (and unfortunatley I did see some of it, cause in gay bars, the women's room floor is always sticky) I think differently. Maybe it's an east coast thing.
I lost three friends to AIDS and have a few that are HIV+. Frankly I don't feel so bad for the ones that are HIV+ because they made thier own bed. How can you feel sorrow for someone that plays russian roulette all the time. I feel the same way about unwanted pregnancies for the most part. In today's world there is NO reason why anyone consenting to sex has an unwanted pregnancy. Sometimes the products fail, but the rate is miniscule when the products are used correctly.
Yeah people are flawed, but choosing to put yourself in a position where you catch a disease, well what can you do.
No I am certainly not perfect and I might slip and die in the shower. I try to minimize the crap that goes into my body by eating organic, eating grass fed meat and growing a lot of my own stuff. I exercise and just try to lead a healthy lifestyle. I don't have unprotected sex, nor do I have sex with someone I don't know intimately.
It's all about choices. Some people make good ones some make bad ones.Everyone makes mistakes, I learn from mine, some people don't.
Kiasmama, (BTW been meaning to ask, and this may sound stupid or someone has already asked it.... but) is your screenname a reference to your daughter?) Just curious, I wondered if you are Kia's Mama- (cuz I know a few of us -me included- have referred to you simply as Kia.)
Anyway, I just had a quick little statement regarding your comments in the above post. And obviously you are entitled to your opinion, so please don't take offense.
I was saddened and disappointed by this statement above "Frankly I don't feel so bad for the ones that are HIV+ because they made thier own bed. How can you feel sorrow for someone that plays russian roulette all the time."
I too have many HIV+ friends and love ones. I equate the above statement to this... It would be like saying -"Everyone who gets behind the wheel of a car knows the risks, and if they get injured, well I don't feel sorry for them."
Because sometimes by just living your life, accidents can happen. And even if I knew for a fact that someone was speeding and/or had run a red light, crashed and became a paraplegic (or even died), I would never make the statement that they deserved it.
Because from my point of view (and again, just an opinion) having compassion is really a great part of being human. Especially since some of the people who are injured (or killed) in car accidents, were simply just living their lives "following the rules of the road" and definitely didn't "deserve it".
I'm not sure if this analogy is accurate to the situation, but it's the best one I can come up with right now. Because sometimes bad things happen to good people. But even when bad things happen to bad people, I would still like to believe there are people in the world who would be willing to help those individuals, regardless of how they got in that state. I personally try to remember that sometimes there are extenuating circumstances (that I may know nothing about) and everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt, and at the very least everyone deserves some simple human compassion.
Hope I didn't offend you, but I did see some fallacies in your above statement, and felt the need to express my thoughts. Thanks for listening.
Also, regarding your previous post where you referenced AIDS Fundraisers and guys Barebacking in the bathroom. It surprised me at the time because, you're a woman and..... (I know that we all occasionally will use each others facilities), but even if some individuals were doing that. It does not mean
all people do that. Even if 99.9% of a population does something, I try to never say- "Well
all of those people behave this way". Because that is still only
some of those people. And there would be a
few who do not behave that way and should not be lumped in with the majority. Hope you can see the distinction. And their are a few HIV+ people who bareback with other HIV+ people, and would never knowingly spread a disease (increasing their viral loads is a whole other topic). But just because I may see someone doing something that to me seems extreme, I try not to judge too harshly, because there may be circumstances I know absolutely nothing about.