reader30
March 21, 2008 - 10:01 PM
QUOTE (SimpleBear @ March 21, 2008 - 07:54 PM)

Some of the time I don't know if I'm a good parental figure, or not. I read the posts by Texas Family and I know that I would never dream of doing things they way they do, but just because we're different does that make us bad?
When Denny came to us he was a damaged child. He had been abandoned by his mother, and his father, my son, basically dumped him on our doorstep. Drew had told me that he didn't want children, and all of a sudden, we had this 10 year old in our household.
Dennis was in and out of rehab, so we decided to make Denny our son. It was a calculated risk because we did not know what would happen, but he thrived, made friends, made a bond with my HusBear and I, and has thrived in school. He seems to be a genuinely happy young man.
When Dennis burgled our house Drew made a deal with him, If he gave up his parental rights, so we could adopt Denny, we would make sure he got all the help we could give him, He's played fair, and we are in the last steps of adopting Denny, but is he going to continue to thrive? Tomorrow holds no guarentees, and, sometimes, I wonder would he be better off with a traditional family?
These people don't help, but Drew and I both love Denny. We do everything we can to make his life a whole, and there is always somewhere there for him, from his *uncles Phil and Jim* and his aunt *Denise*, to his two fathers, daddy Drew and papi Tom. It is not a traditional family, but it's working.
When the Texas Family writes that nonsense I know it's just that, but there will always be someone there to try to tear us apart. Maybe this is one of the reasons that I'm so outraged by those posts. There is love in my house, and I don't get that in their posts. How can you love anyone when you can hate someone you don't even know?
It's confusing to me, and my reaction to confusion is anger. Am I right? I guess we'll see.
SB, I got choked up reading your post. Don't think for a minute that Denny would be better with a "traditional" family! Besides, these days, what exactly IS traditional? I grew up with a mom, dad, sister, two dogs, a cat and a gerbil. I think I turned out ok, but that doesn't mean that there weren't problems in the house and it certainly doesn't mean that my parents loved me anymore than you and Drew love Denny! He sounds like a very luckly little boy to have someone as intelligent, sensitive, funny, loving, and warm as you and Drew to be his parents. Kudos to you for giving him love and security. That's what he needs more than "traditional".