Boy, no kidding.....but number ten....yeah, I could see that. Course, I'm the woman who gives a different end of a long yarn string to two different meows!

Jazz

I have to think that option 2 is the best.... just from your description it sounds as if you know that already. Yes it might be short term but if you look at is a means to buy some time towards your own space it might be more palatable. Option 1 sounds like you would be unhappy from the git-go.

Sheesh, daverocks, sounds like a choice between the lesser of two evils. Where is "way way north" to you in Austin? I've been here a really long time, PM me, I may know parts of town where you could afford to live solo.

AI

So here is a personal problem. I need you guys' objective opinion on this matter. I know you will give it to me b/c you don't have any needs from me like my friends/co-workers/family. which situation do you think is better? I know there isn't much to chose between the two, but moving out on my own is not an option right now, it's just too expensive.

A. Largest room in a 4 bedroom house. Own bathroom, gigantic closet, garden tub, huge room.
Bills paid-Internet, trash, water, electricity
Bills I pay-Cable, Telephone
Drawbacks:
4 people live in the house. 1 person is a total jerk. he is dating the roommate whose family owns the house. The other roommate is her brother and I am number 4. The jerk wears his boxers around the house, is an alcoholic, smokes behind his woman's back, does no chores, takes other people's beer and comments to roommates brother how hot 17 year old girls are while he is in his 40's and talks down to his gf.
House is southwest of city. Somewhat of a commute but nice area. All my friends are south or central and all my favorite cool places to eat and hang out are south central.
Internet sucks and roommate seems to not care to try and get it fixed.
Roommates leave dirty dishes piled up on the counter for days.
Dog hair is everywhere.


B. Have a bedroom and bathroom to myself for 100 dollars less than what I am paying now with bills included except phone and cable.
My niece would love to have me as her roommate.
Drawbacks
Live with my niece (who is a good friend, more like a sister) her two young kids (3 & 1) and her boyfriend who certainly have their fair share of drama. BF can be somewhat of a douchebag.
Family will think something is wrong that I have to move in with my niece when and it will look like I am broke or something.
Much smaller closet
No garden tub.
Way way up north-but have the possiblity of working from a north location to save on gas. However, I would still have to drive to other locations frequently for meetings and such.
friends and fun places I like to hang out south and central.
Would have to find a new place April of next year when nieces lease is up b/c they are most likely going to move.

Guess what! I need help again!

I am still working on the song list for my friends wedding reception. I need some ideas for one to serve as the father-of-the-bride/bride dance. She wants R&B/Soul music (a la Barry White, Luther Vandross, Al Green, etc.) and that is NOT my strong point.

Also, she is looking for a verse (maybe Bible but not necessarily) to be read during the service. She is interested in an African tradition of "Jumping the Broom" and it would be great for the verse to have a tie-in if possible. I will do some Googling but thought I'd throw this out to my new board friends for suggestions!

Thanks, in advance! PM me if you like.

Guess what! I need help again!

I am still working on the song list for my friends wedding reception. I need some ideas for one to serve as the father-of-the-bride/bride dance. She wants R&B/Soul music (a la Barry White, Luther Vandross, Al Green, etc.) and that is NOT my strong point.

Also, she is looking for a verse (maybe Bible but not necessarily) to be read during the service. She is interested in an African tradition of "Jumping the Broom" and it would be great for the verse to have a tie-in if possible. I will do some Googling but thought I'd throw this out to my new board friends for suggestions!

Thanks, in advance! PM me if you like.

Thanks! funny thing is, I used to not be unhappy with option 1. Well at least before bf moved in. I have lived there for 3 years. I guess I am finding it kind of hard to uproot myself (which isn't usually a problem) and I am being a bit materialistic b/c I LOVE my giant room/bathroom and closet! I keep thinking, if I wait it out perhaps bad bf will get cut loose and we can all be happy again! but I am beginning to think that won't happen. Thanks for the objectivity.

Isn't She Lovely by Stevie Wonder would be a great song for the dance. Stevie wrote the song for his own daughter.

Great idea! Thanks!

Guess what! I need help again!

I am still working on the song list for my friends wedding reception. I need some ideas for one to serve as the father-of-the-bride/bride dance. She wants R&B/Soul music (a la Barry White, Luther Vandross, Al Green, etc.) and that is NOT my strong point.

Also, she is looking for a verse (maybe Bible but not necessarily) to be read during the service. She is interested in an African tradition of "Jumping the Broom" and it would be great for the verse to have a tie-in if possible. I will do some Googling but thought I'd throw this out to my new board friends for suggestions!

Thanks, in advance! PM me if you like.

Great idea! Thanks!

Guess what! I need help again!

I am still working on the song list for my friends wedding reception. I need some ideas for one to serve as the father-of-the-bride/bride dance. She wants R&B/Soul music (a la Barry White, Luther Vandross, Al Green, etc.) and that is NOT my strong point.

Also, she is looking for a verse (maybe Bible but not necessarily) to be read during the service. She is interested in an African tradition of "Jumping the Broom" and it would be great for the verse to have a tie-in if possible. I will do some Googling but thought I'd throw this out to my new board friends for suggestions!

Thanks, in advance! PM me if you like.

YOU ROCK!! Thanks for the great ideas. One can never go wrong with Stevie Wonder! No one involved in this BUT the bride had ever heard of "jumping the broom". She seems pretty set on it so the info is certainly helpful. It will be a small ceremony (fewer than 20) and the younglings should really enjoy and join in the "shaking" of it!

The bride is looking for suggestions on the song but I had not thought about asking the father ("Mr." Pat, whom I do know fairly well) if he has any ideas/preferences - GREAT THOUGHT!

Thanks again! I knew I could find help and inspiration here!

my guess is your manuscript is like your porch - fake ~roflmao~

my guess is your manuscript is like your porch - fake ~roflmao~

my guess is your manuscript is like your porch - fake ~roflmao~

Peg.....I wish I knew.

Well, I was shocked. I was on the board posting when she was posting and everything was fine then all the sudden, boom, she posts this post, not replying to anyone but basically saying that people were saying she was telling untruths or that what she was saying wasn't true. It was all very odd. I thought, wtf did I miss THIS time (as apparently I have missed a lot!) so I went backward to see if there were some weird issues. I didn't really see anyone say anything to her or call her out on anything. We weren't even talking about anything remotely personal or seemed could be harmful. But whatever happened, it must have been very personal to her b/c she wasted no time getting out of there. We were talking about the phrase, "The Pot Calling the Kettle Black" and for some reason B&B had brought up the world 'niggardly' and it's meaning and how in many other countries people don't misconstrue it's meaning like happens here. It was all very light compared to some of the outright [expletive deleted] that has been going on around here to be honest. but, I don't want to make light of whatever it was, b/c obviously it affected her more strongly than anyone on the thread at the time could have realized I hate it though, i really liked her. She is so down to earth.

Well, I was shocked. I was on the board posting when she was posting and everything was fine then all the sudden, boom, she posts this post, not replying to anyone but basically saying that people were saying she was telling untruths or that what she was saying wasn't true. It was all very odd. I thought, wtf did I miss THIS time (as apparently I have missed a lot!) so I went backward to see if there were some weird issues. I didn't really see anyone say anything to her or call her out on anything. We weren't even talking about anything remotely personal or seemed could be harmful. But whatever happened, it must have been very personal to her b/c she wasted no time getting out of there. We were talking about the phrase, "The Pot Calling the Kettle Black" and for some reason B&B had brought up the world 'niggardly' and it's meaning and how in many other countries people don't misconstrue it's meaning like happens here. It was all very light compared to some of the outright [expletive deleted] that has been going on around here to be honest. but, I don't want to make light of whatever it was, b/c obviously it affected her more strongly than anyone on the thread at the time could have realized I hate it though, i really liked her. She is so down to earth.

Maybe I should just let this blow over, but I think I might know what hurt her feelings, so I am going to offer this as one example of what MIGHT have caused this. I feel real bad about this as I am the one who opened this particular can of worms with the topic of the pot and kettle. But, I read back through the posts and think that post #200 on page 10 could possibly have caused her feelings to be hurt. It is a post about the word "redneck"...in which she says that some wear the word as a badge of honor.Anyway the reply to her post had a link to wiki.. about the word and the poster said no one would consider being called a redneck an honor. If I had seen the post in time I would have agreed with 2P2S because around here (South Texas)...what she says is absolutely true. Anyway the poster is not from the south. Not ALL people from the south would consider it a "badge of honor". But there ARE those who are proud of being a redneck.I do not think anyone set out to hurt her feelings...and I wish I had stayed off the boards yesterday morn.

Oh my gosh! I do remember that post you are referring to me. It didn't even dawn on me about that. Guess b/c I am from the South and I know some people do wear it like a badge of honor. I wish I had picked up on it, I certainly would have backed her up. Well that is too bad and I hope she reconsiders if that was the case and comes back. 2P we KNOW you are telling the truth.

I have to wonder if something is going on behind the scenes. PMs or something we know nothing about. 2P has always been down to earth, I think it would take something major to cause her to post what she did. Not that I know her well, but her posts are always good ones.

Something is always going on behind the scenes here unfortunately, especially in PM's. I wouldn't rule it out, thats for sure. It hasn't always been the case but now it seems that way.

I can't for the life of me figure out why 2p left. It's pretty sad that this is still happening.

I am making this one post just for clarification:

I had to go into my account to get an e-mail address when I saw a few PMs of concern. I also see that it is a general thought I'm leaving because of "the redneck thing". No it's not the "redneck thing". I live in what the locals call "Redneck Country", but I don't consider myself one and though nothing of it. So Tater, it wasn't you - far from it.

Since I have been here, there has been comings and unfortunately goings of people. I used to be able to post with fun and even live up to my "Got humor - will use it" signature. Now, there is a select group that used every opportunity to put down and belittle what I said in intelligent conversations almost every time I open my keyboard - and it happened over and over again.

The fun is gone. I am worn down and I don't even know if I want to try to gain the desire to try again. And it wasn't even a troll that did it.

Something is always going on behind the scenes here unfortunately, especially in PM's. I wouldn't rule it out, thats for sure. It hasn't always been the case but now it seems that way.

I can't for the life of me figure out why 2p left. It's pretty sad that this is still happening.

2P.... what she said goes for me too.... and to all of the other regular posters that are having second thoughts regarding thier participation here..... PLEASE DONT GO!!!! All of you are important to this group and I would hate to think that this can't be worked out.