Snagglepuss
August 2, 2008 - 05:13 PM
QUOTE (Fordmanrod @ August 2, 2008 - 04:22 PM)

Note... OK you asked.... and I will try to be as honest as I can. Understanding that how you feel about things is not a static thing but one of change and growth, I will admit to in the past having taken a stand that would be percieved as having a bias against Gay Rights. I do NOT feel that way now. I do not know what the eventual answer will be to the same sex marriage issue here in Calif; I believe that it is more of symantics issue in the first place anyway. In most cases, Gays in Calif enjoy the same benefits regarding property, benefits etc as hetero couples and that is the primary idea I support... if a couple either homosexual or heterosexual live in a committed relationship then they should enjoy the smae rights and benefits under the law regarding property ,benefits, taxes, and the ability to be part of your partners care in the event of medical issues.
I agree with Civil Union protections for all couples in the United States. I have been in the position of not having permission to see my partner after he was in a severe auto accident! I also see that every gay & lesbian couple I know pays higher taxes than their married heterosexual counterparts.
QUOTE (Fordmanrod @ August 2, 2008 - 04:22 PM)

Where I still have problems is with what I percieve as an agressive Gay agenda that wants to force me and others like me into acceptance. The Gay Freedom parades while showing that there are many people out there that are gay and just like everyone else also show the "out there" groups like Dykes on Bikes and the S&M crowd that while they also have a right to march I do not believe help your cause.
Although I agree with you on the fact that I am ashamed at how some of my compatriots act and behave in public during "Gay Pride" events, I also understand that the need for such spectacles will be greatly reduced once gays and lesbians can enjoy the same freedoms as the rest of our society.
I wish all of the Pride participants could see this as a political march and act accordingly.
I have no problem with people dressing up and acting wild once they are off the public streets and in a separate atmosphere. But IMO no one should be exposed to near nudity and extreme acts of sexuality in public...
Of course I see this almost everyday with heterosexual couples in public... (but I digress).
The second point is you cannot take the sex out of homosexuality.... our sexual identities are what makes us targets of discrimination to begin with. But again, turn on your TV and see how often and how extreme sex is portrayed in our culture. I'm not saying it's right.... but it is a fact!
Now imagine that every time you see heterosexuality represented in the media that it does not represent you or your beliefs.... it's pretty overwhelming!
QUOTE (Fordmanrod @ August 2, 2008 - 04:22 PM)

There are issues now in Calif regarding how homosexual lifestyles are to be presented in schools and at which grade level these lifestyles are to be presented. Personally, if I had young kids I think I would rather take the responsibility of presenting these issues myself as opposed to having a school do it....but I absolutely fear having a school system have some program mandated by government that has to be taught because they will get it wrong. It goes along with the same thoght that teaches grade schoolers how to put on condoms by demonstrating on bannanas.... we need to let our kids be kids( and I know there are parents out there that will not take this responsibility)
Homosexual families exist! It's a fact... why would you want to hide that fact from children?
What is wrong with teaching kids that not all families are made up of two opposite sex partners of the same race and same religion and their homogeneous cookie cutter children are the only families that exist???
If you want to discuss your families personal religious or political beliefs with your children this is exactly the time to do it.
They will be exposed to it not matter what- pretending we do not exist will not keep your children safe from learning about us.
Why the need to pretend that being gay or knowing someone who is gay is an "adults only" issue?
QUOTE (Fordmanrod @ August 2, 2008 - 04:22 PM)

So to sum up....I will support Gay rights as long as the legislation presented does not circumvent my rights or force me to adopt preferential treatment of a person because of his or her lifestyle....we should and must be equal under the law. I hope this answers your question.
I love those two words "Preferential Treatment".
I am looking for Laws that will protect me and my family from being ostracized, made to feel like a criminal, forced to endure discrimination on the job and in every aspect of my life- or beaten or even murdered because of my sexual identity.
How does wanting those things mean I want preferential treatment?
Do you enjoy these rights? Can your boss fire you for being heterosexual? Have you ever had objects thrown at you from moving cars? Have you ever been beaten or discriminated against because of who you are? And then told that you got what you deserved?!?!?!
Have you ever been told that you should be ashamed of something that you felt is an inherent part of your being?
Have you ever attempted suicide because your culture and all of society tells you that you that are sick and don't deserve to live?
I think if we could just try to see the world from someone else's perspective once in awhile the world would be a much different place.
It is very easy to be judgmental when you are sitting on the side of the majority.